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Let us be real being a single mom isn’t easy! It’s full of so many different moments of ups and downs and many scary moments. I recently had a health scare that put me in surgery twice and off of work for several months. At that time if I didn’t have people around me to help me I don’t know what I would have done. I started to think about how many single mothers don’t have time, energy, or resources to build a community around them. Usually, we are working from sun up to sun down 7 days a week just to survive. No one can tell us we aren’t hard workers.
How do you find your community as a single mom? Well here are a few ideas that I thought might help you along the way:
1. Church community– If you are a person of faith a huge supporter over the years has been people I have met in my church community. It cant be hard if you live in a judgmental church community that question how you became a single mother however for the most part depending on your community of faith often times they will have programs that help support single motherhood.
2. MOPS– If you have never heard of MOPS it’s basically a support group for mothers. It’s basically for preschool-age mothers but depending on your leader they may allow smaller littles in the group. Check your local listings to find a group near you. There usually is a way to connect with a local MOPS group and meet up. These are places for you to be able to find other moms in the same season as you and is a great support moving forward into parenthood.
3. YMCA– Another great resource is the YMCA. They usually have daycare while you work out for your kids. Join a class and not only work out but also get connected with other women in the group. Friendships take time to develop as adults with our busy schedules and things we have to do so take your time and don’t be afraid to ask for help.
4. School– When your kids get into school it’s a great time to get involved if you can. I know its hard when you don’t have free time during the day but if you can make the effort in getting into your child’s school and try and make friends with other parents. This is also a safety issue when it comes to playdates and spend the night parties.
5. Family– This is such a big one for me. Not always are our families there for us but when you have good family members try and make sure that you are giving as much as you are receiving. Many times we can use the family around us without thinking about the cost to them. Make sure that you are aware of the time you are spending with them and help is a two-way street.
Overall the support of our family and friends is vital for our success as single parents. We must make sure that our village is made up of good strong people. The problem comes into place when we don’t have a support network around us and we have an emergency. In an instant, everything can change. I broke my ankle and was never able to climb the stairs to my condo again. Luckily my family stepped in and did what needed to be done to sell it. There is no way I could have made it without them. You too can do it with the right community!
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