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Mouth-Watering Hot Honey Jalapeno Sourdough Recipe

My sister and I are starting a local porch pick-up micro bakery out of our home. The reason we decided to try was because my hobby is baking and cooking yummy things for all my loved ones. Also, I have an up-and-coming surgery that will take me out of work for a while but I can still knead bread while recovering from hip surgery. As a single mom, creativity is oftentimes my friend so we will be creative with what we have and see how it goes. In the meantime, I have been experimenting with new recipes which I hope to share here soon. Here’s one that I know my family loves and even though I’m not a spicy fan I can say they all loved it. I recently got these cute silicone proofing baskets that I’m really loving they are easy to clean and are so easy to store. Check them out here!

Mouth-Watering Hot Honey Jalapeno Sourdough

Here's a great recipe that you will love for sourdough. if you are in a spicy mood it's great to warm you up and to take your sourdough game to a whole other level. Enjoy this great recipe any day of the week.
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Course Main Course
Cuisine American

Equipment

  • 1 Mixing Bowl
  • 1 Dutch Oven
  • 1 Sheet of Parchment Paper
  • 1 Mixing Spoon

Ingredients
  

  • 1 Cup Activated Sourdough Starter
  • 1 1/2 Cup Warm Water (100℉)
  • 4 Cups Bread Flour
  • 1 tsp Salt
  • 1-2 Jalapenos
  • 1/4 Cup Hot Honey

Instructions
 

  • In a large mixing bowl, combine the sourdough starter and lukewarm water. Stir until the starter is dissolved in the water.
  • Add the bread flour and salt to the bowl. Mix until a shaggy dough forms.
  • Turn the dough out onto a lightly floured surface and knead for about 10 minutes, until the dough is smooth and elastic.
  • Place the dough in a greased bowl, cover it with a damp towel or plastic wrap, and let it rise at room temperature for about 4-6 hours, or until doubled in size. You can also let it rise in the refrigerator overnight for more flavor development.
  • Once the dough has doubled in size, gently deflate it and knead in the diced jalapenos and about 2 tbs of hot honey until they are evenly distributed throughout the dough.
  • Shape into a round loaf and put into a bowl or a proofing basket. Cover qith a damp cloth or plastic wrap. Let it rise for another 2-4 hours.
  • Pre-heat the oven at 375℉ (Place dutch oven in the oven while heating up) Allow to heat up for at least an hour.
  • Cut slits into the dough or score dough. Brush the loaf with the remaining hot honey.
  • Place dough on parchment paper. When dutch oven is heated place the parchment paper and dough in the the dutch oven and cover.
  • Cook for 30 mins with lid on and take lid off for another 10 minutes.
  • Cool off the bread on the rack. Cut and enjoy!

Notes

This is a great recipe to have with soup or just on its own. It will help to spice up any dinner and is a delicious option to snack on. Enjoy this recipe anytime!
Keyword hot honey, jalapeno, sourdough, spicy

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Cultivating Wonder: Gardening with Kids in the Springtime

As the vibrant hues of spring emerge, it’s the perfect time to embark on a journey of discovery with your children through gardening. Not only does gardening offer a hands-on experience with nature, but it also teaches valuable lessons about responsibility, patience, and the wonders of the natural world. In this blog post, we’ll explore how to start a small garden with your kids, ways to teach them about plants and nature, and how to incorporate gardening activities into enriching springtime learning experiences. Teaching your children when they are young about the importance of food and where it comes from can have long-term benefits. As the world changes it’s important to teach the skills that have been passed down from one generation to another. Growing food is one of the greatest skills that over time has been lost. This spring is a great time to learn together as a family and see a harvest!

  1. Choosing the Right Plants:
    • Opt for easy-to-grow plants: Select plants that are resilient and suitable for beginners, such as herbs (like basil or mint), cherry tomatoes, sunflowers, or marigolds.
    • Consider sensory plants: Include plants with different textures, scents, and colors to engage all the senses, such as fuzzy lamb’s ear, fragrant lavender, or velvety pansies.
    • Talk to your kids about their favorite fruits, vegetables, or flowers.

2. Planning and Preparing the Garden:

  • Involve kids in the planning process: Encourage children to participate in choosing plants, selecting a location for the garden, and designing the layout.
  • Prepare the soil together: Teach kids about the importance of healthy soil by involving them in tasks like digging, weeding, and adding compost or organic fertilizers.
  • Be age-appropriate with information: Make sure that you are making the learning process fun and age-appropriate. The younger the kids are the more important it is that you are simple and physically engaging.

3. Planting and Caring for the Garden:

  • Hands-on planting: Let kids get their hands dirty by assisting with planting seeds or seedlings, spacing them appropriately, and watering gently.
  • Daily care routines: Establish a routine for watering, checking for pests, and removing weeds, emphasizing the importance of regular care and nurturing for plant growth.
  • Consistency and follow through: Make sure that as you engage your kids in this process you teach them about consistency and follow through. It’s easy to forget about the plants we planted after they are in the ground but it’s rewarding when we see the end result due to consistent care.

4. Learning About Plants and Nature:

  • Observation and journaling: Encourage kids to observe the garden regularly, noting changes in plant growth, the appearance of flowers or fruit, and any visiting insects or birds.
  • Teach plant life cycles: Explain concepts such as seed germination, plant growth stages, and the role of flowers in producing seeds, using simple language and hands-on demonstrations.
  • Research: It’s really important that we teach children where to find information on the plants around us. If they don’t know what the plant needs they can do research to find out what is the optimal environment for them.

5. Incorporating Gardening into Learning Experiences:

  • Math and measurement: Integrate math skills by measuring plant growth, calculating watering amounts, or estimating the spacing between plants.
  • Science experiments: Conduct simple science experiments related to gardening, such as testing soil pH, exploring the effects of sunlight on plant growth, or observing pollination.
  • Art and creativity: Encourage artistic expression by creating garden markers, painting flower pots, or pressing flowers to make botanical artwork.
  • Engage learning practices: We must engage in learning as we work on our garden spaces. Ask thoughtful questions about food diversity and food scarcity. Start a dialogue about our resources and how we use them without waste.

Gardening with kids is not just about cultivating plants; it’s about nurturing curiosity, fostering a connection to nature, and fostering valuable life skills. By embarking on this journey together, you’ll create lasting memories and instill a love for the natural world in your children that will blossom for years to come. So, roll up your sleeves, grab your trowels, and let’s sow the seeds of wonder together this springtime!

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Insanely Addicting Healthy Kale Salad

It’s funny how sometimes recipes represent memories from the ones who made them for us. This is a recipe I remember my mother making quite often when I was a teenager and as a young adult. I haven’t made this since she passed in 2008 and it instantly brought me back to the time when we didn’t know how cancer would take her from us. She was the healthiest person I knew and loved all things fresh and organic. This is one salad that I would actually eat since I was still a teen or young adult who didn’t really like fresh food.

The trick to kale is breaking down the fibrous leaves using an acid. Whether it’s lemon juice or a vinegar you can use the acid to make the kale more palatable. Sometimes you can grind through the taste but why not enjoy your food. I love to taste the tart lemon so I always lean heavier into that flavoring however you can go anyway you want. I was playing around with the idea of adding ground mustard but I decided to go with my mothers original recipe. Let me know what you think of it!

Insanely Addicting Healthy Kale Salad

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Course Salad
Cuisine American

Equipment

  • 1 Serving Bowl
  • 1 Measuring Cups
  • 1 Spoon to Mix

Ingredients
  

  • 4 Curling Kale Leaves
  • 2 Large Avocados
  • 1 box of sugar cherry tomatoes
  • 1/4 Cup Lemon Juice
  • 2 Tbsp Olive Oil
  • 2 tsp Salt
  • 1 tsp Garlic Powder

Instructions
 

  • Chop the Kale by cutting around the stem and just using the leaf part roll it up and chop into length pieces. You can compost or throw away the stem you will not be using it.
  • Put the chopped kale into the bowl and then cut the cherry tomatoes into four pieces. Put the tomatoes in the bowl with the kale.
  • Cut the avocado in half and remove the pit and skin. Cut the avocado length-wise and then again horizontally until you have cubes of avocado. Place avocado in the bowl.
  • Add the oil, lemon, salt, and garlic powder. Mix well and coat all the kale leaves with the dressing. If you need to add more lemon or oil go ahead until it's to your taste. The lemon juice will break down the fiber in the kale leaves so eventually it becomes tender. You can let it marinate or serve right away.
Keyword kale, salad, summer salad

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Spring Garden Prep: Tips for Single Moms to Cultivate a Vibrant Garden

As spring approaches, the promise of warmer weather and blooming gardens fills the air. For single moms, gardening can offer not only a beautiful outdoor space but also a rewarding hobby that brings joy and sustenance to the family. However, balancing gardening with the responsibilities of parenting can be challenging. Fear not! With careful planning and efficient strategies, you can create a flourishing garden while managing your busy schedule. If you enjoy gardening as a single parent it can be not only a learning experience for your children but it can be another way for you to connect and grow along with your kids. Gardening can be very therapeutic to manage stress and help lower cortisol levels. Being out in nature and being amongst the plants can help with all sorts of stresses. Another benefit to a garden is to grow your food. Often you will have more than enough and you can give it away to your neighbors and build community!

  1. Set Realistic Goals: Before diving into gardening tasks, take some time to assess your available time and resources. Set realistic goals for your garden based on your schedule and energy levels. Consider starting small with a few manageable beds or containers. Remember, even a modest garden can yield a bounty of fresh produce and vibrant flowers. Depending on your goals for your garden think about what kind of foods your children would enjoy as well as what you can turn into frozen or canned goods to be preserved for later use. Some great vegetables that can be preserved are cucumbers, tomatoes, peas, corn, and peppers. Whatever you think your children will enjoy I would encourage you to get them so that would help them to get excited to see what would grow in the garden. Depending on your space you can do container or bed gardens. No matter whether you live in a city or in the country there are always ways that you can grow food.

2. Plan Your Garden Layout: Map out your garden space and plan what you want to grow. Consider the needs of your plants, including sunlight, soil quality, and water requirements. Opt for low-maintenance plants that thrive in your climate and require minimal attention. Utilize vertical gardening techniques and raised beds to maximize space and make maintenance easier. There are so many resources out there depending on what you are looking to do with your garden. Many times you can get overwhelmed sifting through information so pick what you want it to look like first and then find the information about that plan. It will be tricky sometimes to sift through information but take good notes on your garden so you know what did and didn’t work for your space and climate. Over the years you will know what did and didn’t work.

3. Get the Kids Involved: Gardening can be a fantastic activity to share with your children. Not only does it teach them valuable lessons about nature and responsibility, but it also provides quality bonding time. Assign age-appropriate tasks to your kids, such as watering, weeding, or planting seeds. Their enthusiasm and curiosity can turn gardening into a fun family project. Make sure to give them specific tasks to help them get motivated to garden. If you set up the harder tasks ahead of time and teach them the basic concepts it helps them to stay excited about seeing their seeds grow. Talk to them about the process of growing your food and why we must know where our food comes from. Make sure you talk about how growing food is fun but also helps those around you.

4. Invest in Time-Saving Tools: To streamline your gardening tasks, invest in time-saving tools and equipment. A good-quality garden hose with a nozzle attachment can make watering more efficient, while a sturdy pair of gardening gloves will protect your hands during planting and weeding. Consider using mulch to suppress weeds and conserve soil moisture, reducing the need for frequent maintenance. Look up strategies that have worked in your area to control animals and pests that might come for your plants. It’s important to know what you could face as you garden and to mitigate some of those problems before they arise.

5. Embrace Sustainable Practices: Incorporate sustainable practices into your gardening routine to minimize environmental impact and save time and money. Collect rainwater in barrels for irrigation, compost kitchen scraps to enrich soil fertility, and choose organic fertilizers and pest control methods whenever possible. By working in harmony with nature, you’ll create a healthier and more resilient garden ecosystem. If you look up local gardening groups in your area you will be able to learn so much about your local climate and the challenges you might face. Think about all the things that would be healthy and helpful for your garden and do some research on how to do it as naturally as possible.

6. Prioritize Self-Care: Amidst the hustle and bustle of parenting and gardening, don’t forget to prioritize self-care. Take breaks when needed, stay hydrated, and protect yourself from the sun with sunscreen and a wide-brimmed hat. Gardening should be a source of joy and relaxation, so don’t hesitate to delegate tasks or ask for help when feeling overwhelmed. Try not to take on a larger challenge than you can handle. Think about the time you have to manage and tend to your garden and what that would require of you. If you can fit it into your schedule and it doesn’t overwhelm you go for it!

As a single mom, cultivating a garden can be both a practical and therapeutic endeavor. By following these tips and embracing a proactive approach to gardening, you can create a beautiful and productive outdoor space while balancing the demands of parenthood. Remember to enjoy the journey, celebrate your successes, and savor the simple pleasures of tending to your garden with love and care. Happy gardening!

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Delicious Strawberry Cream Glazed Greek Yogurt Bread

When the birds start to sing in the early morning before the sun rises I know that spring is on its way. It’s like these birds are calling forth the warmer months with their beautiful songs. This is where the coldness of the winter months starts to give way to the warmer dreams of spring and summer and what foods could represent the coming season. As we come into a time of year when we think about backyard BBQs and corn on the cob one fruit epitomizes summer and that is the strawberry. There are endless ways you can use a strawberry. Thoughts of hand-picked strawberries and tiny sticky fingers enjoying said strawberries are staples of summertime memories. As we tenderly straddle one season to another it’s harder to find transitionary foods between cold weather and warmer. However, that being said I find that this recipe is great for cooler and warmer seasons. You can enjoy a little taste of the summer in the middle of winter if your longing for warmer days overtakes you and you can enjoy it with a hot cup of coffee. Whichever season you are in here’s a great recipe that you will love to enjoy any time of year and if you are a baker at heart like me you have to invest in your hobby. Trust me when I say that investing in a kitchen aid will make your life as a baker way easier. I have never regretted owning one and you won’t either!

Delicious Strawberry Cream Glazed Greek Yogurt Bread

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Prep Time 2 hours hrs
Course Breakfast
Cuisine American

Equipment

  • 1 Kitchen Aid or Mixer
  • 1 Bread Pan 9×5
  • 1 Spatula
  • 1 Mixing Bowl
  • 1 Sifter

Ingredients
  

  • 1/2 Cup Unsalted Butter, Softened
  • 3/4 Cup Granulated Sugar
  • 3 Large Eggs
  • 1/2 Cup Greek Yogurt
  • 1 tsp Vanilla Extract
  • 2 Cups All-Purpose Flour
  • 1/2 tsp Baking Powder
  • 1/2 tsp Baking Soda
  • 1/4 tsp Salt
  • 1/2 tsp Ground Cinnamon
  • 2 Cups Strawberries Sliced (Fresh or Frozen)

For the Strawberry Glaze

  • 1/2 Cup Strawberries, Finely Chopped or Coarsley Mashed
  • 2 Cups Powdered/ Sugar
  • 1 Tbsp Lemon Juice

Instructions
 

  • Cream the butter and Sugar in the Kitchen Aid or with a Hand Mixer.
  • Beat in the eggs, one at a time, followed by the greek yogurt and vanilla.
  • Sift the flour, baking powder, baking soda, salt, and cinnamon in another bowl.
  • Mix the wet ingedients into the dry ingredients before mixing in the strawberries.
  • Fold strawberries into the mixture. Once the mixture is well incorporated pour into greased 9×5 bread pan.
  • Preheat the oven to 350℉/180ā„ƒ oven until a toothpick inserted into the center comes out clean about 50-60 minutes.
  • Once the bread is done cool completely. Pour on the Glaze.

Glaze Instructions

  • Mix in a mixing bowl or Kitchen Aid the powdered sugar, lemon juice, and strawberries until the glaze becomes liquid and easy to pour.
  • Pour the glaze over the cooled bread and serve right away.

Notes

When the spring starts to poke its head out from the winter months I love to dream about strawberry summers and what foods I will get to prepare to usher in the warmer months. Here’s a take on strawberry bread that can straddle both the winter and summer feels because you can eat it with a hot cup of coffee in cooler weather or with a glass of lemonade on a warm summer day. This recipe is very versatile in its application. Enjoy and let me know how you like to eat it.Ā 
Keyword bread, breakfast, glazed doughnuts, strawberries

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Conspiracy Theories and the Demons That Drive Them

This is a very off-brand post for me. I wrote this back during the pandemic when all of the craziness was going down. It’s mainly aimed at the people who have fallen down the rabbit hole of conspiracy theory life. I aim to help you either understand that where you are heading has no life at the end of it or for the family members who are watching their loved one go down this road to help you understand what that road leads to. Talking with someone who is convinced of these things is nearly impossible and can be an all-consuming job. Make sure to have good boundaries and speak the truth with as much love as you can. Help them see that the end of this road doesn’t lead to anything but pain and anxiety. Here’s my story….

If you take a look into my past, you will find I am closely tied to the Christian right. I grew up in the South in a non-denominational church who were convinced they had the corner on Christianity (at least that was how I saw it) . . . but did we?

Years later I look back and see what a broken mess it all was. The fruit of the ministry ended children’s lives, discounted mental illness, and led many of the offspring to find radically different paths than their parents. What does that have to do with conspiracy theories? Glad you asked.

With what is happening in the world instead of posting a one-liner on my FB page and getting hate from all sides, I thought I’d tell my story instead. However, I will preface this with a caveat: what I am not saying is that the world is perfect and we have no problems. I’m not saying that people in power are all perfect and there isn’t a corrupt one among them. I’m not saying evil, selfish people with power don’t exist. I’m not saying vaccinations are 100% safe for all people and I’m not saying we shouldn’t stand up for what we believe, but here is what I am saying: sometimes just sometimes, we need to take a step back and examine, ā€œWhat is the fruit of my belief system? And do my beliefs keep me from being present in my day-to-day life and family?ā€

My story begins when I was around 10. My father started getting into conspiracy theories. He began to dig into the Federal Reserve System and became obsessed. Now being a Christian family, this was all hidden under a veil of “revelation” that God was ā€œrevealingā€ to us to be ready for the economy to collapse and revert us back to the 1930’s Depression Era (mind you we were in the ā€˜90’s and early 2000’s). As he continued to dig, he would meditate and constantly talk about how we were headed to a one-world government system and how eventually we wouldn’t be able to buy food with cash. This belief started an avalanche of bad decisions that left his family in financial and physical ruin.

As time went by, my dad’s obsession with having no debt led us to only renting houses and never owning anything. He didn’t trust doctors so we never went and didn’t have health insurance. My brother who had his own demons to battle was attracted to the paranoia and need for significance that conspiracy theories afforded. One of the draws of a conspiracy theory is it makes you think you have ā€œsecret, inside knowledgeā€ that no one else knows and, therefore, you have a special ability to save yourself and others from future peril. In the Bible, there’s a verse that states, ā€œFor whoever wants to save his life will lose it; but whoever loses his life for [Jesus’] sake will find it.ā€ (Matthew 16:25) This is a core principle of Christianity. Our goal isn’t to save ourselves. And it shouldn’t matter what the world does; we aren’t of this world. If you’re looking for evil, why are you shocked that it’s evil?

Over time, I left my father’s house and went to live my own life, but every time I came back, there was a new theory. I remember, in the days of the Obama administration, my father was explosive all the time. “That man is going to RUIN our COUNTRY!ā€ he would shout, ā€œWe are all going to be under Sharia Law and all of us will be forced to choose between being Muslim and being a Christian.ā€ The fear was palpable. My brother at this time was a heavy drug user and, with his intense hatred and unforgiveness, lashed out at all authority figures. This dangerous rebelliousness was fed by my father’s belief system that had systematically dismantled any and all proper power of authority (including police officers) had over us by telling us of the deep state’s corruption. And this was in the late 1990s and early 2000s—way before ā€œdeep stateā€ became an internet buzz word.

Anyone from government officials to doctors were corrupted—everyone had evil intentions and no one could be trusted. The seed of paranoia began to build. Yet the fact that Jesus never fought against the Roman Empire, which was arguably the most demonically-influenced government of His time, never crossed my father’s mind. Jesus never fought against the government because he was from a completely different Kingdom. He knew he would win by doing the one thing the enemy never saw coming: laying down His own life (the best warfare ever).

In 2008, my mother at the age of 58 was diagnosed with stage 4 breast cancer. This was after months of her not feeling well and only going to alternative medical ā€œdoctorsā€ (who couldn’t legally diagnose her) because my father had no insurance and because he didn’t trust mainstream doctors. They had also falsely believed that in California they would force you to be treated by chemotherapy and doctors didn’t have any other treatments than this poison. But nevertheless, he finally took her and she decided she didn’t want to get Chemo (because it was so evil) so she went the natural route. My father poured over all the information he had been digesting for years not only his Faith but also his conspiracies. He found a doctor who believed cancer was a fungus and said he could cure my mother with baking soda so my father flew my mother to Italy and the man successfully sold my father snake oil.

The treatment failed, of course, but my father wouldn’t give up that the government had banned books that had the cure to cancer and there was someone who would know that cure. We found HIM! The savior that was going to cure my mother’s stage 4 cancer was a mad research scientist who loved to smoke pot and shoot up vitamin C. He was it. In the meantime, we found the source of my mother’s malady—it was the mercury in her fillings. So, my father took her to San Francisco and had all the amalgam fillings removed. Surely with new porcelain fillings, my mom’s cancer would be cured! Expect back in my mother’s home country, all of her family had the same fillings and never had cancer including her mother who is in her 90s and still alive as I write this.

With our own personal savior, we knew that everything we were putting my mother through was going to be her salvation. We didn’t know where the cancer was, how far along she was, or even if the treatment was working because we couldn’t trust the doctors. And yet on the other side of this, we were believing for a miracle. Everyone believed she was going to get healed. Then she died August 1, 2008.

All my father’s conspiracies, research, finances, and hard work didn’t save his wife. After my mother’s death, my father found another conspiracy theory. I’m not exactly sure of all of the language but basically the thought was he wasn’t going to pay the banks the mortgage because they didn’t hold the title of the house and so he would only pay the person or company holding the title. Along with that conspiracy, came ā€œthe sovereign citizen revelation.ā€ And it was at this point, I finally checked out. My father’s disconnection from what was actually happening in the world around him scared me. He wasn’t engaging with the grief process or the protection of his children. He felt no need to be present in the moment and all the conversations that he could have were about what the government was or wasn’t going to do. Sadly, those who he did find to listen to him were dragged down with him.

He lost the house soon after my mom died because he refused to pay the mortgage. At this point, my brother had gone through his own paranoid life where getting a job was slave labor in his mind. The government owed him millions of dollars because he was being used as collateral by the US government. He also had been deathly ill with a gluten allergy and other gut health issues that were only cured by smoking copious amounts of pot.

In 2012 I moved back to northern California to be closer to my family and, the day that I moved, my father moved in with his fiancĆ© in Reno because California was way too expensive, etc. After my father left, my brother started having a break with reality as well. His drinking was out of control and the “savior mad scientist” was giving him shots of a substance called procaine. This, of course, was “outlawed” by the FDA because it cured every ailment you ever had. The government didn’t want you to have it because while you’re on it you could conquer the world and out-smart them at their own game.

Later that same brilliant, mad scientist was found dead in his cabin from hypothermia but also probably an OD of procaine. My brother got obsessed with getting a hold of this for himself so much so he bought components from China and had the police after him for trying to bring illegal substances into the States but it was all justified because the government was just the ā€œdeep state just trying to control its people from getting freedom.ā€ They don’t want us to have control over our health or finances—we must always remain slaves!

A year or so later, my brother was found in the woods bleeding to death after he had slit his own throat and stabbed himself multiple times because he was convinced he was the antichrist. He was in the hospital for 6 months and was never made to find counseling or help for his mental illness. I took him in for a while but his obsession with the government always watching him, knowing “who he is,” and always listening to his phone calls got too much for me. My duty was to my daughter and, after he completely destroyed my house in one of his manic moments thinking he was a god, I could no longer care for him.

Years later, my father has completely disowned his children and my brother’s instability, which can still be haunting at times (he recently feared he had caused the coronavirus outbreak), is somehow managed while permanently qualifying for disability. We are completely destroyed as a family; shattered from all sides because of the obsession of my father and brother. The fruit of obsessing about a future you can’t control is a complete and tragic disengagement with the world right in front of you. ā€œDon’t worry about tomorrow for tomorrow will take care of itself,ā€ (Matthew 6:34) was never applied in our family. At every turn, my father would have told you he was on a righteous journey to bring justice and fight for freedom but, in the end, he lost everything because he didn’t see what was right in front of him.

The enemy comes to kill, steal, and destroy but Jesus comes to bring life and life abundantly.

Friends, it costs too much to spew hate and anger and believe things just because it’s contracultural or anti-mainstream. For every relationship that is broken in the Body of Christ in this time, the enemy wins. I’m not telling you how to think, but please be present with those around you, do your research and check your own biases, promote truth but not just something that sounds true or you want to be true—look at the fruit and, most importantly, look into the loving eyes of Jesus because He is the Ultimate Truth.

Coping with Winter Blues as a Single Parent: Practical Strategies for Mental Wellness

As winter sets in, many of us experience a dip in mood and energy levels. For single parents, juggling the demands of parenting on top of battling seasonal affective disorder (SAD) can feel overwhelming. However, there are effective ways to cope with the winter blues and maintain mental wellness even as the days grow shorter and colder. In this post, we’ll explore practical strategies specifically tailored for single parents to combat SAD and navigate the winter months with resilience.

Understanding Seasonal Affective Disorder (SAD): Seasonal affective disorder, often abbreviated as SAD, is a type of depression that occurs at the same time each year, typically during the fall and winter months. Symptoms of SAD may include persistent feelings of sadness, low energy, difficulty concentrating, changes in appetite, and a lack of interest in activities once enjoyed. It’s important to recognize that SAD is a real and treatable condition, and seeking support is essential for managing its effects.

Practical Coping Mechanisms for Single Parents:

  1. Prioritize Self-Care: As a single parent, it’s easy to prioritize the needs of your children above your own. However, self-care is crucial for maintaining mental wellness, especially during the winter months. Set aside time each day for activities that nourish your body and soul, whether it’s practicing yoga, taking a warm bath, reading a book, or enjoying a hobby you love. Self-care doesn’t just involve physical activities but it also involves emotional and spiritual growth. Go after discovering how you can become healthier all the way around. This will benefit your children and you in the long run because you will be able to show up for your family in a greater way and understand how to cope with stress and decisions better in the long run.

2. Get Sunlight Exposure: Lack of sunlight is a major contributor to SAD, as sunlight helps regulate our body’s internal clock and serotonin levels. Make an effort to spend time outdoors during daylight hours, even if it’s just for a short walk around the neighborhood with your children. Additionally, consider investing in a light therapy box, which mimics natural sunlight and can help alleviate symptoms of SAD. Sun is so important to get vitamin D and to feel happier physically. Talk with your doctor during these months and have them run blood tests to make sure that you are getting all the vitamins you need during this season.

3. Maintain a Healthy Routine: Establishing a consistent daily routine can provide structure and stability during the winter months. Aim for regular mealtimes, bedtime routines, and scheduled activities for you and your children. Prioritize nutritious meals, adequate sleep, and regular exercise to support your physical and mental well-being. Consistency when you have children helps to regulate their world and they will feel comforted by the fact that they know what’s coming next. When you figure out how to streamline your day you will be able to save time, money, and energy along the way.

4. Social Support: Don’t hesitate to reach out to friends, family members, or support groups for help and companionship. Surrounding yourself with a supportive community can provide emotional encouragement and practical assistance when you need it most. Whether it’s organizing playdates for your children or scheduling regular check-ins with a trusted friend, connecting with others is essential for combating isolation and loneliness. Community also can help to shoulder the burden of taking care of children. Reach out to those around you in such a way that they feel connected to you not just so you use them but so you can share burdens. We are herd animals and we stay connected which helps us to grow and learn to become the best version of ourselves.

5. Practice Mindfulness and Relaxation Techniques: Incorporate mindfulness and relaxation techniques into your daily routine to reduce stress and promote emotional resilience. Mindfulness practices such as meditation, deep breathing exercises, and progressive muscle relaxation can help calm your mind and body, allowing you to cope more effectively with the challenges of single parenting during the winter months. If you have a spiritual practice or not work in some quiet time every day for your mind to process through your day. Sometimes it just helps to put your phone and media away for a couple of hours to detach from the constant bombardment of ads and social media. This can drain out mental, emotional, and physical energy and time. Time is the most precious resource we have so use it in a way where you don’t feel like you are wasting it.

Coping with winter blues as a single parent can be challenging, but it’s important to remember that you’re not alone. By implementing practical coping mechanisms such as prioritizing self-care, getting sunlight exposure, maintaining a healthy routine, seeking social support, and practicing mindfulness, you can navigate the winter months with resilience and maintain your mental wellness. Remember to be gentle with yourself and prioritize your well-being as you care for yourself and your children during this season. Work on recognizing your hormonal cycles as well and when you are on the verge of losing self-control because that will help you to train your mind to take a minute and regain emotional control over yourself. This also demonstrates to your children what it looks like to have self-control through tough seasons.

Creamy Delicious Cheese-Cake with Dulce de Leche

My mother was born and raised in Argentina. As a staple part of her diet, she had dulce de leche in the morning on some toast. Since immigrating to the States she lost a lot of her heritage trying to acclimate to the American culture in the early 80’s. However, some of her food regulars made their way onto our table and dulce de leche was one of them. When we would visit our family in Argentina we would always bring back some original dulce de leche. Many times as kids we would grab spoonfuls of the delicious caramel topping and just eat it plain. Below is a fun twist on a family recipe that we have loved for decades. Enjoy!

Creamy Delicious Cheese Cake with Dulce de Leche

Print Recipe
Course Dessert
Cuisine American, Argentinian

Equipment

  • 1 Food processor
  • 1 Kitchen Aid or Hand Mixer
  • 1 Springform Pan
  • 1 baking sheet
  • 1 Spatula

Ingredients
  

  • 1/2 Cup Toasted Pecans
  • 1 1/2 Cups Graham Crackers
  • 1/4 Cup Brown Sugar
  • 1/2 Cup Unsalted Butter (melted)

Filling

  • 24 ozs Cream Cheese (softened)
  • 1 Cup Granulated Sugar
  • 4 Large Eggs
  • 1 tsp Vanilla Extract
  • 1/2 Cup Dulce de Leche

Topping

  • 1/2 cup Heavy Cream
  • 1 1/2 cup Dulce de Leche

Instructions
 

  • Preheat your oven to 325°F (160°C). Grease a 9-inch springform pan and set it aside.
  • In a food processor or blender combine the pecans, graham cracker crumbs, sugar, and melted butter for the crust. Mix until the crumbs are evenly moistened.
  • Press the crumb mixture evenly into the bottom of the prepared springform pan. Use the bottom of a measuring cup or glass to firmly press the crumbs into place. Put in the oven for 8-10 mins at 350℉
  • In a large mixing bowl or kitchen aid, beat the cream cheese and sugar together until smooth and creamy.
  • Add the eggs, one at a time, mixing well after each addition. Scrape down the sides of the bowl as needed.
  • Mix in the vanilla extract until incorporated.
  • Pour half of the cream cheese mixture over the prepared crust in the springform pan.
  • Spoon dollops of dulce de leche over the cream cheese layer. Use a knife or toothpick to swirl the dulce de leche into the cream cheese mixture.
  • Pour the remaining cream cheese mixture over the dulce de leche layer, spreading it evenly with a spatula.
  • Place the springform pan on a baking sheet to catch any potential leaks, and bake in the preheated oven for 45-55 minutes, or until the edges are set but the center still jiggles slightly.
  • Turn off the oven and leave the cheesecake inside with the door closed for about 1 hour to cool gradually.
  • Remove the cheesecake from the oven and allow it to cool completely at room temperature.
  • Once cooled, refrigerate the cheesecake for at least 4 hours or overnight to firm up.
  • Before serving, drizzle additional dulce de leche over the top of the cheesecake and garnish with whipped cream and chopped nuts or grated chocolate, if desired.
  • Slice and serve chilled. Enjoy your delicious dulce de leche cheesecake!

Notes

Dulce de Leche is a staple in Latino culture. Here’s a great recipe that you will love to have on any occasion. Enjoy this recipe!
Keyword cheese cake, dessert, dulce de leche

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Home Organization and Decluttering Tips for Single Moms: Creating Tranquil Spaces for Stress-Free Living

Being a single mom often means juggling a multitude of responsibilities, from work and childcare to household chores. Amidst the chaos, maintaining an organized and clutter-free home becomes crucial for both mental well-being and productivity. In this blog post, we’ll explore practical tips on home organization and decluttering tailored to the unique challenges faced by single moms. Through it all creating a space where everything has a place and where you can easily find needed items promptly will create a sense of peace and well-being in your home. Take one step at a time as you go through your home and organize it in a way that makes sense for you and your family.

  1. Start Small, Go Room by Room: Begin your journey to a clutter-free home by taking it one step at a time. Tackling the entire house at once can be overwhelming. Instead, start with a single room or even a specific area within a room. This approach allows you to see progress more quickly and prevents burnout. Many times we can get overwhelmed with all the things that need to get done but taking one step at a time will help us to organize more efficiently. It’s easy to get distracted by all the other things that you have to do but if you can set a timer to focus on one section of a room you will find you will make progress quicker.

2. Decluttering Essentials: Invest in sturdy storage bins, baskets, and organizers to help categorize and store items efficiently. Clear containers are particularly useful as they allow you to see the contents without having to open them. Label each container to make finding things easier. If you can get rid of things that you don’t ever use it will also reduce the amount that you need to store in bins. Focus on storing memories or important items in bins but getting rid of the majority of things that don’t serve you anymore.

    3. The Three-Box Method: When decluttering, use the classic three-box method: one for items to keep, one for items to donate or sell, and one for items to discard. This method provides a clear structure and helps you make decisions more efficiently. Being able to see where things need to go will help you stay focused on your task as well as give you a place to categorize the different items in your life.

    4. Streamline Your Wardrobe: Maintaining an organized closet can save you time and reduce stress during hectic mornings. Keep only the clothes you love and wear regularly. Consider creating a capsule wardrobe, consisting of versatile pieces that can be mixed and matched. It can easily get overwhelming if you have a lot of clothing that you don’t use. Focus on which clothing you gravitate to regularly and if you ro seasonal clothing in and out of your closet it can free up space and help your closet feel less cluttered.

    5. Maximize Vertical Space: Make the most of your available space by utilizing vertical storage solutions. Install shelves, hooks, and pegs on walls to store items such as bags, hats, or keys. This not only keeps things organized but also creates a visually appealing and functional space. Using up the wall space to keep things organized can help you use your space efficiently.

      6. Create a Command Center: Designate a central area in your home as a command center. This can include a bulletin board or a magnetic whiteboard for important notes, calendars, and schedules. Having a centralized location for information can help you stay on top of tasks and appointments. It’s so helpful to have a place where everyone knows what’s going on for the week. If you consistently update and keep a calendar it will help all the family stay on schedule.

      7. Involve the Kids: If you have children, make decluttering a family affair. Teach them the importance of organization and involve them in the process. Assign age-appropriate tasks and create a sense of responsibility for maintaining a tidy space. Help them to learn how to organize their space as well as maintain and get rid of things that they no longer need or use in their lives. This will help to teach them to let go of things when it no longer serves them.

      8. Digital Decluttering: Don’t forget to extend your decluttering efforts to the digital realm. Organize your computer files, emails, and apps. Unsubscribe from unnecessary newsletters and delete unused apps to streamline your digital space. We can often forget to declutter our media spaces but often times we can get overloaded with emails and texts from companies trying to sell their products. Try and unsubscribe to a few email lists everytime you check your emails it will lighten your load so much.

      9. Set Realistic Maintenance Routines: Establishing daily and weekly maintenance routines can help keep your home organized in the long run. Dedicate a few minutes each day to tidying up and handling small tasks to prevent clutter from accumulating. If you can do little things every day it will help to keep the bigger projects at bay. Maintenance helps to prevent a huge clean and organization problem later.

      10. Prioritize Self-Care Spaces: Finally, create designated areas in your home for self-care. Whether it’s a cozy reading nook, a relaxing bath space, or a comfortable meditation corner, having spaces that cater to your well-being can make a significant difference in reducing stress. Having a place where you can feel peace to rest, journal, or do meditation can really help to bring peace throughout the week. Love yourself by finding a place to get away every now and then.

      Maintaining an organized and clutter-free home is an ongoing process, and as a single mom, finding practical solutions is key. By implementing these tips and customizing them to fit your lifestyle, you can create a home environment that promotes tranquility, reduces stress, and enhances overall productivity. Remember, the journey to a clutter-free home is a personal one, so take it one step at a time and celebrate the progress along the way.

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      Cuban Style Empanada Mojo Dipping Sauce

      When me and my family went to Florida over the holiday break we got to try some Mojo sauce. I loved it so much that I wanted to replicate it when I got home. The sauce that we had in Florida was a bit more on the garlic side but I wanted to lean more into the lemon flavor side. It was a great test of what I could do in the kitchen to test out a few different recipes. Here’s what I landed on. These go great with my Argentinian empanadas so check them out here! Tell me what you think about this recipe!

      Cuban Mojo Empanada Dipping Sauce

      Print Recipe
      Course Snack
      Cuisine cuban

      Equipment

      • 1 Blender
      • 1 Cutting Board
      • 1 Knife

      Ingredients
        

      • 1/2 bunch Bunch Chopped Parsley
      • 1 bunch Chopped Cilantro
      • 5 Garlic Cloves (Smashed)
      • 2 Lemons
      • 1/4 Cup Olive Oil
      • 1 tbsp Vinegar (Red Wine or White)
      • Salt to taste

      Instructions
       

      • Dump all the ingredients into a blender and pulse until you get the consistency you like.
      • Taste to make sure you like the flavor if you want it to have a stronger garlic flavor add more garlic or if you want more of a citrus flavor add more lemon. It's all about your preference.
      • Serve with Empanadas and enjoy it as a dipping sauce.

      Notes

      This is a very traditional dipping sauce in Cuba and the Caribbean. It’s great with many dishes but mainly good with empanadas. You can also use it as a marinade for chicken or beef.
      Keyword carnberry sauce, Dipping sauce, empanadas, mojo

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